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Advice For A Newly Sober Person Who Is Attending A Social Event Like A Wedding

Monday, August 05, 2019


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  1. Dating and Dealing with Anxiety
    01 Nov, 2017
    Dating and Dealing with Anxiety
    Many people struggle with anxiety.  The National Institute of Mental Health reports that approximately 1 out of every 5 people are afflicted with this condition.  Many anxiety-ridden people have particular worries and fears related to the social world, and thus this makes dating especially difficult for them.  However, human beings are essentially "social creatures".  All sorts of research reveal that to some degree, we depend on relationships for our survival.  Do you know that there is
  2. Function Dysfunction
    24 Oct, 2017
    Function Dysfunction
    As a highly experienced addiction psychologist, I can say that people with an addiction are rarely ever crazy!  Irrational? Yes!  And the behavior may look does not occur for no reason.  Some addictions do become physical and take on this as a major function; however, many are deeply rooted in a perceived psychological benefit.  I use the word "perceived" because it is your view of it being beneficial, regardless of its actual perks, that is most important.  Most addictive
  3. 10 Feb, 2017
    Absolute Expectations and Their Adverse Impact on Hope, Progress, and Self-Evaluation
    Dr. Albert Ellis, the founder of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy, a type of cognitive-behavioral therapy, outlined in his theory how "absolute" styles of thinking lead to unhealthy emotions (i.e., depression, anxiety, etc.) and behaviors (i.e., binge substance use).  He stated that "absolute" styles of thinking often include the words "always" and "never", or any offshoots of this type of extreme language, and that these rigid self-views are too demanding and thus set oneself up for major
  4. 10 Feb, 2017
    The Pink Elephant in Your Head
    I want you to adhere to a request.  This is a very important request, and thus I want you to try as hard as you can to successfully comply with it.  OK - for the next ten seconds, no matter what you think, say, or do, please do not under any circumstances think about a pink elephant!   I will count now...1....2....3....   I am going to stop counting because I am very confident that you already failed to comply with my request!  Don't fret, I expected you to fail.  Why?  Because you are human,
  5. Why I Truly Dislike The "Day One" Philosophy of Anonymous Groups
    10 Feb, 2017
    Why I Truly Dislike The "Day One" Philosophy of Anonymous Groups
    As you may have seen in my video, I explicitly declare that I am not opposed to Anonymous groups as a possible option for people struggling with behavioral dependencies.  However, there are some premises of these groups that I am vehemently opposed to and make no apologies about it.   One such premise is the "Day One" philosophy.  If you join an Anonymous group (i.e., AA, NA, OA, GA, etc.), at some point, you will hear about this "rule".  Although they do not call it a rule, there does not seem
  6. Accolades to My Fellow Harm-Reduction Therapists in NYC
    10 Feb, 2017
    Accolades to My Fellow Harm-Reduction Therapists in NYC
    While I would like to consider my specific approach to treating behavioral dependencies as unique, in no way am I the sole practitioner or provider of harm-reduction therapy in New York City.  In fact, I want to take an opportunity to extend a special thanks and gratitude to two organizations who I feel really helped to pioneer the harm-reduction approach here in the city, as well as elsewhere.   Andrew Tatarsky and The Center for Optimal Living, and Jeffrey Foote and Carrie Wilkins and The
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